Affective responsibility, what is it about?

"He just stopped talking to me from day to day after leaving for months, without any explanation.". "I care, but I don't know if I love him, I explained and enraged it, I generated false expectations.". "He told me and hurt as much as a stab, he changes very quickly to seem". These phrases that surely remind us. Now, did you ever hear about this concept that becomes more popular every day? If you did not, keep reading, this article has everything you need to know.

Content

• What is affective responsibility?
• Be affectively responsible in 7 steps
• Benefits of being emotionally responsible
  • References

What is affective responsibility?

Be affectively responsible It implies being aware of the impact that we can have what we say and do in other people when relating to them. Our behavior will always have consequences on others, it will affect your emotional state and this could be for better or bad.

It is a common mistake to believe that affective responsibility implies that we must put the needs of others over ours. This, however, is not. What is sought is to build more equitable and respectful relationships. It is essential to keep in mind that, when relating to others, we will generate in them a reaction, which will be negative or positive. Not to forget this issue, we can begin to practice this responsibility that applies not only to love relationships, but to any type of link.

These ideas are intended. It is extremely necessary not to ignore the influence we can have on those around us.

Say what we need, Generate agreements and be empathic, They are pillars of affective responsibility. This concept is proposed to build affective links that promote equality.

Be affectively responsible in 7 steps

So far we have defined what this concept refers to. Now, from the theory everything seems simple, but what actions can we take to be affectively responsible in our day to day? Here are some tips to achieve it.

• Communicate sincerely: Express our feelings, also our point of view in any particular situation, in the face of attitudes or words of others. Saying what we really feel and being honest with ourselves is the first step to ask for honesty in others.
• Recognize the impact of our actions on other people: words or silence, act or stop acting, any decision we make will impact any person with whom we establish a link. It does not imply blaming us for what happens to others before what we do, but rather to assume responsibility for it.
• Set limits: Put a brake, say "so far and now". Drawing limits is fundamental when looking to establish healthy relationships. A bond without limit will be undoubtedly problematic, the roles will be confused and derived from conflicts. The limits do well and it is an idea that must be assimilated.
• Show us how we really are: From the beginning we should always show our true self to others, without changing our ways and acts for wanting to impress or please. These issues sooner or later will come to light and know they were deceived. A lie can never lead to something good.
• Understand that others are not our property: Respect the integrity and decisions of the others. Other people, like ourselves, we must by the right to enjoy freedom, we should never make decisions for others or let people with whom we relate (however close they are) take the reins of our lives. The key is not to rewrite, listen and give rise to others so as not to take them as if they were our belongings.
• Review your own mistakes: Review what we fail and be responsible for the consequences of our actions, in order to become aware of what hurt others, not to repeat it and reflect on it.
• Work empathy: Putting into the place of the other, understanding what happens to him or by what he is going through is fundamental when trying to be emotionally responsible and ask the same to others. So we can know how appropriate it is to behave and how not to do it.

Having reviewed what we should do to be affectively responsible, we could also say what should not be done if we look for healthy and comprehensive relationships. Breaking agreements, disappearing from someone's life without giving explanation, cheating, ignoring what the people with whom we relate, transfer limits, are just some examples of what we should not do if we seek to implement our affective responsibility. This guide is also very useful to think: “Are my emotionally responsible links with me?”, An extremely necessary reflection if we want to maintain lasting and healthy relationships.

Benefits of being emotionally responsible

While creating links in which affective responsibility will not prevent them from harming us, we can ensure that their ideas will be clarified and may have the capacity to see who is affectively responsible with you and who does not, allowing them to discern between healthy links and harmful, to leave behind those who do wrong.

If the affective responsibility began to be implemented, we assure you that they will notice an increase in their self -esteem, they will notice that they will be able to manage and understand their own emotions, they will be more empathic and tolerant people, open to listen to others and understand them, and (What is personally fundamental for me) will develop weapons to be able to detect emotional abuse and face them to put an end point to those situations.

We must emphasize that, as we mentioned above, we must not be confused and falling into the impression that affective responsibility only matters in romantic ties or sexual relations, with our friendships, family members and even labor ties we should be able to put this responsibility into practice, which is indispensable when creating ties based on mutual care and respect.

And you, what are you waiting to put your affective responsibility into practice?

References

• Garrido Maturano, A. AND. (2011). Affectivity, responsibility and responsibility. Introduction to an archeology of affective life and its ethical significance from the thought of e. Levinas.
• Roberts, t. (2015). Emotional Regulation and Responsibility. Ethical Theory and Moral Practice, 18(3), 487-500.
• Roffo, Julieta (2019). "Affective responsibility": what are the codes of people who want to have open relationships. Clarín newspaper. Recovered from https: // www.clarion.com/society/-PRIESABILITY-AFFECTIVE-CODE-PERSONES-SOER-HEAD-RELATIONS-ABIERTAS_0_V76UEIXN.HTML