Sexual fantasies, definition and types

Content

• What is a sexual fantasy?
• So is it bad to have erotic fantasies?
• Types of fantasies
• The most frequent fantasies
  • Male sexual fantasies
  • Female sexual fantasies
• Is it good to bring erotic fantasies to practice?

What is a sexual fantasy?

Sexual fantasies are mental representations of sexual theme. They can occur voluntarily or involuntaryly for our mind And they are quite common, although most people are kept for intimacy.

They usually appear in puberty and accompany the human being the rest of their life. It has been proven that both men and women fantasize with the same frequency but their fantasies are different and men usually explain them with less modesty than women. Fantasies do not depend on age or sex.

Have fantasies is completely natural And healthy from the psychic point of view since they serve to disconnect the mind of everyday problems, it is an escape that leads us to evasion. In addition, they have an aphrodisiac power that can increase sexual desire and excitation. In fact, it seems that having few fantasies or lack.

So is it bad to have erotic fantasies?

So that this type of fantasies can be considered as something pathological, these should affect the life of the individual and be their only way of having sexual pleasure. In this case we would talk about paraphilias, in which fantasy becomes an obsessive act, whose purpose is not sexual gratification but to carry out the situation generated by the person's obsession.

Sexual fantasies help improve their own pleasure, since they stimulate libido, so it is healthy to have fantasies and we should not feel guilty for having them.

Types of fantasies

Two types of fantasies can be defined, the calls "CREATIVE " They aim to enrich sexual relationship and arouse desire and "desired ", These refer to what would like to happen. Almost all, both of one guy and the other, report pleasant sensations, although sometimes there are people who can have fantasies that are disturbing such as dreaming of a violation, if fantasy is recurrent and causes discomfort to the person, the person should investigate The origin since there could be some unconscious trauma or fear in the person.

The most frequent fantasies

Male sexual fantasies

• Make a trio. Maybe the most appealed male sexual fantasy. Many fantasize about having two women in bed at the same time, the Ménage à trois Always occupy the first positions when fantasizing.
• Roles games. Pretend that your partner is another person is also a male imaginary classic. There is the classic nurse or horny shawl, but the police also succeed, better if a good wives are accompanied.
• Vouyerismo. Being observer of your partner's masturbation is also something that excites men a lot, especially if the other person does not realize. The contemplation of naked people or having sexual encounters can lead to the fantasy of having sex with another person while looking at their partner or that someone observes them while they make love.
• Sex in public, Many men find exciting the risk that they can catch them during sexual act; In the bathrooms of a disco, on a beach with people.

Female sexual fantasies

• Submission. The woman wishes to receive orders or even experience pleasure through physical pain. Usually the women who like this type of games tend to be controllers in real life and excite themselves thinking that for once they do not have power.
• Rape. Although it is a very thorny issue, this is a fantasy that occurs and at the same time it is very not very confessable. Has a lot of relationship with the fantasy of submission. You have to take into account this fantasy is far and it has absolutely nothing to do with a desire to be attacked, it is simply exciting for women to think that she is able to drive man crazy to the point of making him lose control.
• Lesbian fantasies (heterosexual women). It is one of the most common fantasies and does not mean being bisexual, it is simply because of the curiosity that awakens.
• Sex with strangers or famous. Fantasy is having a fleeting, unexpected and without commitment to the other person.
• Be Domatrix. In this case the woman excites her to think that she has control over the man, inflicting her humiliations and being the only pleasure receiver.
• The exhibitionist. It is wishing to be seen while you have sex, either by strangers in situ or being recorded.
• The vouyerista. Observing from a hidden place as others have relationships is also a very recurring fantasy, as well as imagining participating in sexual acts while other people observe.

Is it good to bring erotic fantasies to practice?

It depends on the type of fantasy. According to the specialists, Some fantasies are better that they remain in the imagination and to carry them out could compromise the physical integrity of the participants and are typified as crimes, for example, to have sex in public. Other fantasies, they can be put into practice since they can help stimulate sexual life and overcome some inhibitions.

The best thing is that it is the same person who decides if it is better that these are left in the world of fantasy or wants to try it in real life. But If the person is in a sexual relationship in which their sexual tastes go along the same line as those of their partner, there is no reason not to share fantasies more intimate. In any case, you always have to assess whether the fantasy can bother the other. In a relationship not everything must be shared.