Asexuality, what is it?

The asexuality is a term that lately seems to be fashionable. You do not know what it is? Today, we talk about what issexuality, sexual inclination towards not having sexual interest (yes, it is an oxymoron, but it is the best way to express it).

What is asexuality?

Asexuality is usually considered a sexual orientation, but, in reality, it is quite the opposite, because it is a sexual non-organizational. They are people who do not feel sexual desire of any kind, nor in front of men, nor in front of women, nor in front of any other genre or paraphilia that we could imagine.

It is important to note that it is neither an ideology or sexual orientation, but that it is a condition in which a person does not feel moved to have sex of any kind.

But this motivation cannot come from religious or cultural feelings. That is, it is not a celibacy. They are simply people who, naturally, do not feel any interest in sex.

Of course, it should be noted that even if it is not an ideology or sexual orientation, asexuals and organizations to which they belong they have established political ties to improve their visibility and be better considered in society. That is why, on many occasions, they go hand in hand with LGTB movement.

And, for a while to this part, there are many asexuals who have joined to claim that society is not so focused on sexual desire, and that it is not necessary to have sex to receive social approval from other people.

That is why there are associations and communities such as the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN), focused on publicizing knowledge and experiences related to asexuality and giving voice to asexual people. And it is not a small association, precisely, since it has more than 10.000 partners.

But ... What do we scientifically know about asexuality?

The truth is that not enough.

Asexuality is a condition that has been studied very little, and, therefore, we have very few data to grab scientifically speaking.

In this sense, it must be understood that, as so much information is missing and no studies have been sufficient.

In turn, this makes visibility and sensitivity to asexuality difficult, because people are not able to understand this condition, and the absence of information does not facilitate the work of empathizing.

And, on many occasions, people tend to think that asexuality is an ideological position or fiction carried out by repressed people. And, of course, as happened with homosexuality, it usually happens that it looks like some kind of disease or symptom of disease.

But then ... are they lonely people?

As we say, There is not enough information to say if the asexuals, as a group, are such or that. However, asexual associations have talked about this issue, and therefore, It is the closest information we have to try to understand them.

In general, asexuals claim that They are totally able to have normal relationships with everyone, and They are also able to have emotional and intimate relationships, although not necessarily sexual.

This last point is important: many asexuals do not need to have sex, but they do have the need to have emotional relationships. That is why, in some cases, to satisfy their partner, they do decide to have sex.

It is important to understand this: the asexual person who has such sexual relations does not have them because he feels pleasure with it (neither do it displeasure). Simply, he does it to satisfy his partner, because he understands that the other party can have that need.

However, as you can imagine, a relationship between an asexual and a sexual person is somewhat complicated, because no one likes to have to satisfy their partner without receiving any kind of pleasure in return, and Nobody likes to have sex with a person who does not enjoy with you.

However, it is important to point out that there are such relationships and that, although they are less frequent and (apparently) less functional than sexual-sexual or asexual-obsoxual, they can work.

But, as we say, This is something that we can venture under what the Asexuals and their organizations comment, It is not something that has been studied scientifically and, therefore, this information should be taken with tweezers.

As you can see, Asexuality is a reality. There are people who do not feel sexual attraction of any kind, neither towards men nor towards women. So, if you have never felt sexual attraction, don't feel alone. You may be asexual.