Reconstituted families a loss and a new beginning

When we talk about a reconstituted family, we refer to a family nucleus in which there are children of previous marriages. Being the product of a divorce, the duel in this type of families is implicit, on the other hand, this family system brings with it the presence of stepsisters, stepfather and stepdaughter. So, The duel generated by the loss of the previous family nucleus and the adaptation to a new home can generate intense emotions in its members.

Content

• Reconstituted families, a new starting point
• The Duel of Divorce
• The challenges of reconstituted families
  • References

Reconstituted families, a new starting point

By definition, A family whose configuration includes a second marriage and children of a previous union, is called 'Reconstituted Family'. In this type of families, the existence of stepfather, stepmother, media and stepsisters is palpable. As a general rule, a reconstituted family nucleus is usually seen negatively by society. As evidence, the Dictionary of the Royal Spanish Academy defines the term 'stepmother' as "a woman who treats her children badly". And the word "stepfather" appears in this dictionary as "obstacle, impediment or inconvenience".

Although there is an unfavorable vision of reconstituted families, they are increasingly common in our society. In fact, in 2000 it was determined that There are a greater number of reconstituted families than nuclear or intact families. In the case of divorced men, there is more likely to contract second nuptials than women. In addition, low -income women and men with high income are the ones who formalize a second relationship. On the other hand, the presence of previous children is usually a factor that cohifies to individuals to rebuild a new marital bond.

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The Duel of Divorce

Duel refers to the set of emotional states and behaviors that arise in an individual when a loss occurs in his life. The divorce is a duel, both for the couple and for the children and, as if that were not enough, it raises a series of changes in the family's lifestyle. A divorce can result in economic difficulties by not having the entry of a couple, but of a single person. Also, you can lead people to change residence, work, school and friendships.

Sometimes, children spend much less quality time with the parent who no longer lives with them.

In this sense, parents are the affective basis of minors, for this reason, divorce itself provides emotional instability. Therefore, family members usually go through a hurricane of emotions, making the duel more difficult to travel. In general, children can experience the feeling of helplessness or emotional abandonment for one of their parents or live in the hope that their parents will one day be together again. Knotted to this situation, The fact that parents have new couples and families is a factor of great emotional importance for children. So, introduction and coexistence with new family members, in general, is not easy.

The challenges of reconstituted families

Each family is unique and has its own strengths, problems and difficulties. However, in families called reconstituted they appear Common stress sources: the consolidation of the marital bond, the establishment of new family roles and the regulation of family coexistence. However, these dynamics, more than inconveniences, must be seen as challenges to face to generate healthy and harmonic relationships.

In the first place, both parents must inform themselves about the consequences of divorce to understand that it is normal for children to miss seeing their parents together. Therefore, It is a natural reaction for children to feel that their parents' new couples are intruders who come to harm their family. In the first instance, if your child behaves negatively with his stepfather or stepsisters, it is not something we should bother us. Simply, little by little we must help you get used to your new life dynamics and become natural.

At times like these, the best resources are trust and communication; It is important that children experience well -being and security. To do this, you have to constantly know that your parents will stop taking care of it and loving it. In this process, quality time is relevant to maintain an emotional safety link. It is suggested to dedicate various activities together, do not stay all the time attached to work or the new couple.

Providing sufficient attention to children makes the feeling of threat be diminished.

Finally, the couple should occupy a collaborative role in this process, to try to win the confidence of their new family. When the couple has a loving attitude, it ends up being associated with pleasant moments for the child. Of course, the approach must happen naturally and fluidly, without forcing things.

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References

• Espinar, i., Carrasco, m., Martínez, m., García-Mina, a. (2003). Reconstituted families: A study on new family structures. Clinic and Health, Vol. 14, no. 3. Official College of Psychologists of Madrid. Extracted from: https: // www.Redalyc.org/pdf/1806/180617972003.PDF
• Market, r. (2011). Duel of the children by divorce. Mexican Association of Tanatology. Extracted from: https: // www.Tanatologia-Amtac.com/Downloads/Thessines/33%20Duelo%20de%20Los%20Hijos%20por%20el%20Divorcio.PDF
• Sánchez, r. (2020). How to make my son accept my partner. Sports world.