Consequences of conflictive divorce in minors

In 2020, 18.8% of the total divorces made in Spain had a contentious separation. A couple breakup is always painful for those who suffer, but especially when there are lasting conflicts between the parties, called "interparantal conflict”And it also results from the involuntary participation of minor children. With involuntary participation it is not intended to refer that the children of marriages that separate directly participate in the process, but to that Their situation is even more painful, since they have to do with how their parents are engaged in continuous random discussions with a single objective.

 "Win the contest causing the greatest possible damage on the contrary"

It is true that often, either for ignorance, recklessness or resentment, He is not aware of the psychological and emotional damage that is being infringed in the minor (Segura et al., 2006), together with the consequences that in the short and long term they will be loaded in their childhood backpack, just to take advantage of the other parent in the battle of the divorce.

Content

• Psychopathologies
• Maturation
• Sexual behavior
  • Conclusions
  • Bibliography

Psychopathologies

Scientific literature has reported studies in which he gives himself a good account that Children who have suffered the separation of their parents have risk factors for depression, anxiety states, anxiety features and poor quality of life Health related to divorce (Verrocchio et al., 2016, 2019). In turn, children living with their married biological parents constantly maintain better physical, emotional and academic well -being (Anderson, 2014). In this regard, it is not surprising that children who have gone through the divorce of their parents score lower in these aspects, since there is a deterioration of relations with the parent who does not have custody and his relatives, such as grandparents or uncles, which is diminished, where the time they can pass with them is restricted considerably (Kruk & Hall, 1995), something that, without a doubt, affects the child.

Maturation

Another aspect to consider is the social and psychological maturation of the child. The type of coping that is carried out in a divorce will serve as learning for minors in the future.

It could be true that: teach with the example!

Children take as a reference to their parents and, before a family conflict, they could take as a basis the attitude taken by their parents in relation to divorce or as a general form of conflict resolution. Staats et al. (2018) corroborate the above in one of their studies where they showed that the way in which adolescents handled conflicts with parents predicted how they would then manage conflicts in relationships outside the family 2 years later. On the other hand, Billingham and Notebert (1993) showed that University students of divorced parents were more likely to experience verbal aggression and violence by your partner during a conflict resolution.

Another aspect is that children from divorced families could offer lower scores in cognitive stimulation, social relations, academic and self-concept level (Amato, 2000). Certain studies, such as the one carried out by Jeynes (2000) corroborate this statement, since they found that these children obtained lower academic averages and were asked to repeat a school year, compared to children from families of two parents, which they obtained Greater science and mathematics scores.

Sexual behavior

Another consequence could be a poor perception of sexual behavior, where There could be an earlier sexual debut and greater number of short love adventures (Jósson et al., 2000), as well as Less trust and satisfaction of romantic relationships  which could lead to the highest rates of long -term conflicts and negativity (Jacquet & Surra, 2001). Another clear example would be the age in which girls from divorced families can get pregnant in adolescence, since they present eight times more likely of premature pregnancies than girls of intact families (Ellis et al., 2003) In addition to higher rates of sexually transmitted diseases (Anderson, 2014).

Conclusions

All of the above summarizes a circumstance that parents, on some occasions, are not really aware. Children need stability in the family, but During divorce, context and family organization enter chaos visible by all its members, not only for adults. The security with which a child develops becomes altered, unpredictable and threatening. Changes in the living conditions of the child includes several aspects to take into account, such as change of habitual housing or home conditions, sometimes masked in two types of education, routines, permits and prohibitions: one when you are with the mother, and another when you are with the father.

One of the most common ways to deal correctly with negative conflicts in divorces is family mediation, since it achieves, clearly, a correct negotiation of divorce conditions, solving a negative conflict positively and generating an adaptation improvement not only in adults, but also in the little ones, through a decalsed in conflicts both during the divorce process and later, in the Coparantality relationship.

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