Autophobia or fear of being with oneself

In a society where there are more and more external stimuli and where the objectives are to achieve success, it is easy to fall into autophobia. By this name the same do not come many definitions at the head, however, it is something that is extending too quickly. Autophobia is about fear or phobia to be with oneself. Although it seems strange, this fear of being with ourselves is increasingly frequent.

Throughout the article we will investigate the roots of this problem. Concepts such as full attention and acceptance will be addressed, as well as the fact of developing a good emotional education. Without a doubt, it is an interesting topic as a disturbing. How have we been able to be afraid of being with ourselves? At what point of the social structure is the failure forward!

Content

• Autophobia: Are we afraid?
  • Emotional education
• Full attention and acceptance for autophobia
  • Full attention
  • Acceptance
  • Bibliography

Autophobia: Are we afraid?

As described in the introduction, the Autotobia, also known as monophobia, It is the fear of being with ourselves. It should be noted that it should not be confused with the fear of loneliness. Autophobia can experience it even surrounded by people. The simple fact of facing ourselves can stop us. It is a phobia, without a doubt, very striking and destructive for the one who suffers it.

But what hides behind this phobia? There are different explanations to address this fear, but the most obvious is the lack of emotional education. Since we are born, our social conditioning begins. Society and modern successful demands can lead us to completely disconnected people from ourselves. What does this mean? That, although we do not believe it, we do not know each other.

Emotional education

Emotional education is essential to meet and investigate ourselves. Learning to handle our emotions and thoughts is key to reaching appropriate well -being states. When we live only concerned about the external, we forget something important: we. It is true that in that outsourcing we are "we" in the form of work to pay bills, in the form of studies, in the form of purchases, leisure ... but it is not an internal "we", in which we deepen our mind.

How long will it take to get the motive out of the pocket when we have nothing to do? Possibly a few seconds. By not knowing how to handle our thoughts or emotions, every time we are alone or we feel alone, we begin to be invaded by uncomfortable sensations. Exact! They are our uncontrolled thoughts and emotions. We are scared of ourselves! The easiest thing is to get the phone, put the television or perform any type of activity to entertain us instead of dealing with ourselves. In this way, it is not strange that addiction to mobile devices is increasing. But what can we do?

Full attention and acceptance for autophobia

Behind the autophobia hides this fear of facing our own thoughts and our emotions. We are unable to withstand with ourselves because we do not know how to deal with everything that happens in our mind. We feel drowned. When each thought becomes an arrow and every emotion into something painful, we tend to flee and outsource our behavior.

By not knowing how to handle ourselves, little by little, we accumulate negative situations that we have not known how to solve. In this way, when we are alone or when we are with more people but we feel alone, we feel that our mind is a volcano. That is why, so important, start taking action. What is the way to overcome autophobia? Full attention and acceptance are two techniques that will help us work this fear. What is it about?

Full attention

Full attention, or mindfulness, consists in paying attention to the present moment. When we focus our attention on the present, for example, on breathing, our mind stops attending those thoughts and emotions that fill us with sadness or anger. It is important not to judge them. Through full attention we will learn not to identify with our thoughts or our emotions, because we are neither one nor the other.

"Meditation is to be aware of what is happening right now: in your body, in your feelings, in your mind and in the world". -Thich Nhat Hanh-

It is true that if we think about drinking and drinking we can say that we have carried out an action through a thought. However, thoughts are variable and changing. Today we can think that we will not know our problems and within a few weeks we can be able to "eat the world". Thus, We realize that thoughts are manageable and learned. That is why so important to learn to observe them, not judge and not identify with them.

As the meditation expert Jack Kornfield states: "The mindfulness invites us to return to the now, at the present time, instead of obsessing thinking about a past that no longer exists or fantasizing about a future that has not yet arrived". The author also states that "With the power of mindfulness, we can be fully present before the unbearable beauty and inevitable tragedy that entails our human life. We can dignity the life that has been given to us and take care of it ".

Acceptance

Acceptance is a process psychological through which we internalize what has happened and accept that the facts can no longer be changed. However, acceptance is a very active process, it does not mean to agree with what has taken place, it means that what happened, passed and touches the forward. It is time to take measures to prevent a painful situation from happening again.

Through this process, the most frequent thoughts will also stop invading us. What can we learn from negative experiences? Through this issue, we can transform obsessive negative thoughts into learning. Thus, acceptance also represents an active learning of what has happened to us and we have not been able to solve.

"Attention is a way of making friends of ourselves and our experience". -Jon Kabat-Zinn-

As Jon Kabat-Zinn, a world doctor and reference in the practice of mindfulness, "states,"In order to reach higher levels of health and well -being, we must not start from the place we would like to go, but from the place where, at this moment, we are ". In this statement, we observe that through full care it will be easier for us to practice acceptance.

Kabat-Zinn continues and comments that "The step that leads to greater health is only possible from the place where we are. 'Now' is the trampoline of any future possibility. Therefore we insist both the need to carefully contemplate our symptoms and sensations in this regard and to accept them as they are".

Bibliography

• Kabat-Zinn, J. (2016) Live the crises fully. How to use the wisdom of the body and mind to face stress, pain and disease. Barcelona: Kairós Editorial.
• Kornfield, j. (2018) The best moment is now. Madrid: Uranus Editions.